"Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well"

This made my day and I am madly in love with it. I wish that everyone everywhere could read this.
(*note: I did not know who or what Schrödinger was before I read it. But thanks to Wikipedia - such an awesome and reliable resource - I now do: he was an Austrian theoretical physicist. His "thought experiment(s)" test a certain hypothesis, theory or principle. "The common goal of a thought experiment is to explore the potential consequences of the principle in question".)

Now please...click here

It has happened to me like I'm sure it has happened to every other women out there. A stranger, a guy, approaches you as you walk down the street, while you're riding the TTC, while you're grocery shopping - anything, you name it - and tries to strike up conversation or compliments you. Guys wonder why girls don't like this or why we seem standoffish and freaked out. But instead of finding out the exact reason why we are acting as such - most men I have encountered get angry, defensive, annoyed, and the like. Yes, I understand that we are  in a public space and you have as much right to be there as I do. But that does not give you the right to talk to me and that does not give you the right to shrug off and ignore my "not interested", "you're freaking me out", "who the fuck are you and why are you talking to me?" signals or my flat out "no's". Can you not take a hint? Do you want to be seen as a potential threat to a woman's life? Because that is exactly what you are becoming when you do this.


Something that has always struck me as...off...and unfair is: if a guy is hitting on, or talking to, me and I don't like it or feel uncomfortable - I am expected to be a bitch and tell him to go fuck himself. And, yes, as much as I would like to (and sometimes do) I do not feel that I should have to. It is not my fault that guys are oblivious and can't get the hint that I don't want to talk to them/I am uncomfortable/I am afraid for my life because that person could be a  potential rapist. Just like it's not my responsibility to ensure that guys don't oogle over me if I wear a short skirt or a low-cut top. I can wear whatever I want and you don't have the right to look at me or say anything if I do. It's not up to me to keep your sexuality in check.

 And the sad thing is, this is one of the biggest double standards that I face. If I don't want you talking to me and I tell you so or make it known - I'm a bitch. But if I don't (and perhaps choose to remain polite, nice, and throw in some subtle hints because I don't want to be rude or make you feel bad about yourself)? I'm a tease. I can't win! I'm screwed if I do and I'm screwed if I don't.

It's time to take responsibility for yourself, boys. Own up. And read this article because you could learn a few things. You don't walk from the subway to your apartment alone at 1am holding your keys in your hand ready to use them as a weapon because you think the guy walking behind you is going to drag you into the bushes and rape you. And I'm not exaggerating. This is actually how women think. We live on a rape schedule. And can you really blame us?